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5 Principles Of Good Parenting To Help Your Kids Get More Exercise

Parenthood is one of the most challenging stages in life that requires a lot of cautiousness and care in order to raise healthy and happy kids. However much challenging this stage can be to the new parents, parenthood can also be rewarding depending on how you nature your children.

There are various effective parenting styles and techniques that can be employed in training children to develop a sense of responsibility and the value of decision making.

 One is the method of parenting with love and logic. That promotes the aspect of offering your kids with choices that are acceptable to the parent and letting them make their own decisions while allowing the natural consequences of their decisions to do the teaching.  

Here are the 5 principles of good parenting that teaches your children the benefits of exercise and the fun it brings.

1. What You Do Matters

Parents are the first learning models young children get exposed to from the time they are brought into this world; hence, parents should, by all means, lead as an example. There is a difference between saying what you want to be done and doing them, and since what you do matters; you are expected to practice what you preach.

Therefore, parents are meant to lead the way, bearing in mind that what you do makes a difference. So make sure that you work perfectly on the way you treat others and how you look after your health behaviours. 

2. Be Involved In Your Child’s Life

Getting to know your child better from their early childhood stages takes time and hard work as a parent. In parenthood, being an involved parent is considered fundamental in enriching healthy habits to your children. As a caring and loving parent, it is never too early to expose your children to regular physical exercises. 

There are countless physical activities toddlers/ pre-schoolers can participate in as well active physical exercises for school-age kids. Thus, for a good parenting experience as far as health and fitness is concern, sacrificing your time and being there both physically and mentally for your kids will help you explore the world with your children.

 3. Encourage Your Child’s Independence

Children need to be given space and time to explore their talents and abilities with or without the face of their parents. Encouraging independence during early stages helps children develop a sense of self-direction and self-development.  Encouraging your child’s independence will let them learn to take control of themselves.

Train your children the importance of being physically active and let them practice doing them with or without your watch, and in return, praise them for maintaining an exercise regime. Independence is part of human nature, and children are also supposed to take control rather than feeling controlled by their parents all the time.

4. Treat Your Children With Respect

Children are a blessing from God, and they should be treated with respect and love. Respect is two-way traffic, whereby, you treat your child with respect; he or she will respect you back. Talking about health and fitness, you should recognize the fact that all your children have different abilities. 

Good parenting calls for creative ways to make exercising more fun to attract the attention of your kids. Sometimes, lazy children make their parents arrogant, but learning to treat your children the right way is important. 

 5. Make An Exercise Schedule

Our days are busy, and if we do not sacrifice some of our time for exercising and eating healthy, we are more likely to lead unhealthy lifestyles. Exercising don’t always have to be tough; there are simple exercising methods we can employ.  One is making an exercise schedule that will help you and your children set aside some time for physical activity.

Physical fitness requires time and commitment; thus, parents should find at least some few hours a day to stay active with their children. Taking a walk in the evening with your kids is the best way out as it brings some form of relaxation and socialization time.

So, as a parent who is looking forward to raising a healthy family, then you should consider the above 5 principles. Try them today, and you will never be disappointed!

Birthing Violet

My mother had died six months earlier as I lay on my bed in Brooklyn and began to time my contractions.

I had never needed her more than during my labor. I wanted living proof that this was possible. I didn’t believe I held enough power or knowledge, enough female strength to do this alone. But she had gone, so I had hired a mother, a doula, to be my guide.

My doula, Mary-Esther Malloy, arrived at three in the morning while I was in the shower. I had taken natural birth classes with her, determined to recreate my late mother’s labor.

“I don’t know what all the fuss is about,” my mother said, whenever someone on television gave birth, screaming and grunting towards motherhood. I did not want to be one of those women my mother scoffed at. With her gone her words were all I had, and so I opted for a natural birth.

I imagined I would give birth exactly as my mother had: silently, gracefully, powerfully; with wide hips and long hair stuck to my forehead. But I had neither wide hips nor long hair, and my gait tended more towards function than grace as I carved a path through my house at three-thirty in the morning with my doula at my side.

A lithe woman, Mary-Esther had the presence of a ghost, beautiful with a face that appeared to glow. She walked next to me, quiet, a sandy haired shadow. Just as I had held my mother’s hand through her illness acting as an anchor while her body performed unimaginable feats of destruction, Mary-Esther held my hand while my body performed unimaginable feats of creation.

Birth is, in every way, the opposite of death, but what common ground the two share is their proximity to not-life: That time before life truly begins or after life inevitably ends. Being close to either of those states it is prudent to have a hand to hold. I had held my mother’s for six weeks and Mary-Esther held mine for what would turn out to be twenty-seven hours. She was my anchor. She offered the conviction that I could do this. Her quiet energy flowed down her thin arms, radiating into my hands. This will be okay, your body can do this, she seemed to be saying.

Dawn came and I asked my husband to draw the curtains. I didn’t want to know how long this was taking. I moved around my apartment leaning on one thing and then another. Mary-Esther, forever at my side, said little; she knew words were not what I needed. I was beyond language. Instead of speaking she joined me in that distant place that labor carves out as its own.

I wanted the birth of my daughter to be a joyous occasion. I had had enough sadness. In an attempt to ensure joy, my husband and I had attended classes in natural birth. But trying to prepare for birth was like trying to learn how to be tall. All childbirth classes could offer me was a sense of preparedness. My husband and I had practiced with me rocking on all fours while he pressed tennis balls into my back. I’d sat atop yoga balls while he massaged my feet. We had squatted and counted and eaten ice chips. I had exercised my Kegels on the subway, secretly clenching my vagina while trying not to appear stressed.

My labor lasted for twenty-seven hours, during which time I barely spoke. Not because of the pain, but because I was doing something no one else could and it was demanding enormous effort: I was birthing Violet. I had imagined feeling deeply close to my husband during labor but he seemed little more than a shadow of face, dark hair and eyes as he stood next to me. Labor focused my mind and body in a way that little else could rival. Anything that was not essential became irrelevant. It was me, my uterus and Mary-Esther Malloy.

My husband and Mary-Esther urged me to eat and drink between contractions which were coming hard and closer together. I had given up timing the pains hours ago. With the curtains closed I had given up time altogether. I sat on the toilet with my knickers on just to rest. Mary-Esther held my bare legs, fastening me to reality. The flickering of the scented candle she’d lit made me feel sick; I kicked it over with my foot. We sat, my doula, my husband and me, and waited.

I was on my toilet in Brooklyn having my legs held by Mary-Esther Malloy. My mother was dead, my sister was in Scotland, my friends were at work and my husband was a man. In that moment I loved Mary-Esther Malloy as much as I’ve ever loved anyone. In the dark bathroom that smelled of smoke and wax, she held on quietly reminding me that my grandmother had done this six times, my mother had done this, as had her mother, and in the pull of my womb I was drawn back hundreds of years to women in linen nightgowns, sweaty and medieval, the king praying for a son; women in jungles, brown and naked squatting in the leaves; women before there were diagrams or videos about how to breathe or about hypno-birthing or hot tubs. I would be one among them.

The pain intensified and the noises coming from within me changed tenor as I was guided by my husband and Mary-Esther Malloy into the living room. A large blue yoga ball was placed in front of me and I was lowered onto it. My knees apart, my belly hanging like a hammock of baby, my chest resting on the ball, I bobbed like a ship lost at sea. The baby was coming. I held onto the ball as if it were a life raft.

Then it was time to go to the birthing center, but I was stuck. My ankles had seized, my knees were pinned, and downwards was the only way my body wanted to go. Mary-Esther Malloy and my husband gently pulled me up.

The short walk from my door to the car took half an hour. Every few shuffles I gripped Mary-Esther and groaned. Her strength seemed without limit. In the car I closed my eyes and imaged my way through the Brooklyn dark.

At the birthing center we were met by our midwife. I sat in a rocking chair in the homey room designed to look non-medical. My blood pressure was slightly high so I was told I’d be moved to labor and delivery. Mary-Esther stepped in front of me with the bravado of a mother and told them to take it again in ten minutes. Then she crouched close to me and spoke in a soft voice. I do not remember what she said but her words conjured images of softness, of submerging in cool water, of returning to calm. I listened and my blood pressure turned downwards. I registered the surprise on the nurse’s face when she took the second reading.

I was helped into a wet tub. The water was warm and I lay back, glad of its suspension. I don’t know how long I was water-bound, but soon I heard hard, groaning noises. As the noises changed from moan to grunt the nurse helped me out of the tub and onto the bed. I was so close to birth that I barely felt the hand that examined me. Then I was told it was time to push. My waters broke and everything was warm.
With the next contraction the midwife told me to push. I did, and then I stopped pushing, afraid of my own power. I looked at the midwife and at Mary-Esther, feeling panic, but they both smiled encouragingly.

I lay on the bed, my side to the mattress, one leg on Mary-Esther Malloy’s shoulder, my husband at my head, my chin on my chest, following what my body told me to do. I didn’t really believe a baby could come out of me until I tried to lower my leg for a rest and felt something large and hard in the way. “It’s the head,” said the midwife at the look of surprise on my face. A head between my legs? Surely not, but I pushed on. I felt something pop out of me and then in one slippery moment out my daughter flew, onto my chest, and like that, I was a mother!

Her warmth at that moment of birth was as real to me as the coldness of my mother at the moment of her death. And the baby looked like my mother had – bald and helpless — but she wriggled up my chest, and gray and slippery, lay against me. Life! I had birthed Violet, and both she and I – mother and daughter — were full of life.